The other day, I used this phrase to explain where my head was at.
Thinking about it recently, I came to the conclusion that I often use cryptic phrases as a way of not dumping on folks without their consent.
And this might be the wrong approach.
The common surface social contract, people ask how they are, the expected answer is well, as for the most part, people don’t recall care, it’s just a ritual.
I tend to say something along the lines of “not dead yet”, which conveys that there is more to the story, but I’m mostly functional. And when I’m not doing well, I’ll say something more cryptic, which offers the chance for them to inquire more, but also to not.
I should just be giving a more surface level answer, and then letting them decide if they should inquire further. As they may be put off by a more obscure answer.
It feels counter-intuitive to me, but that’s probably something I should work at adjusting.
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